When I wake up, Dali is there to give me gentle, good-morning kisses. It’s like she’s re-establishing our connection after we’ve been apart while sleeping during the night. She reminds me of our in-born need to be securely attached. I coo at her and tell her good morning and how pretty she is. She turns over so I can rub her belly.
I treasure these moments because I know how important I am to her and I believe she knows how important she is to me.
It doesn’t matter if we were mad at each other the day before. Dali certainly has her way of letting me know she is not happy with me. And Dali can be so difficult at times; I get mad at her too. We always come back to the bond between us that trumps all else.
I’ve learned from Dali how important these kinds of rituals are in couple relationships. They help us to honor who we are to one another, particularly during our comings and goings. When I know my husband cares about me and he knows I care about him, we can get through the hardships of the day much easier and indulge more in the joys of life.
I thought your post particularly helpful, as I too have noticed that my pets help calm me down. Loved that, as a psychotherapist, you were comfortable having your dogs present.
Thanks, Tim, for taking the time to comment. I am glad your companion animals have helped you calm down.